3 Tips to stay calm, when everyone around is losing it.
Have you ever been in the throws of an argument and said “JUST CALM” to the other person?However were you calm in your own body. If you took the words away, it may have looked like aggression, not calmness.
So to learn how to be calm in your own body try this:
Tip 1 – CALM THE COREExercise 1 – SOFTEN THE FOLLOWING : THE TONGUE, THE THROAT, THE CHEST, THE TUMMY RIGHT THOUGH THE LEGS AND MAYBE INCLUDE ARMS
When we get stressed certain things happen in the body – so we could say ‘stress’ is not just a mental thing but a body thing.
Note that the idea of ‘strengthening your core might be a myth’ See this article in The Huffington Post.
TIP 2 – FREE YOUR NECK.
One thing that usually comes with that stressed out feeling is a tight neck. The head may well poke forward or pull back and down.To relieve this tension think:
LIGHTNESS – at the base of the skull
LIGHTNESS – at the crown of the head
SOME WEIGHT – at the nose
SOME WEIGHT – at the chin.
My pupils will recognise this as “Light, Light, Weight, Weight, My Neck is Free”.
Exercise 2 – Touch these places with one finger from back to front and you may find your neck release and your head topple forward on the top of your spine. (I demonstrate this in my video here – 3 Tips to help when stressed – 2 minutes in).
In standing or sitting you could also think of LIGHTNESS in the front of the hip joints (in the groin), the back of the knees and the front of the ankles.
TIP 3 – GIVE A COMPLIMENT (in your head only)
When asked ‘Do you dislike anyone?’ people will usually respond ‘No, life is too short’. However in the throws of an argument with our partner or colleague do we love them or even ‘like’ them “IN THAT MOMENT”? Probably not really……Exercise 3 – If you are feeling stressed with a person that you are engaging with, think of something that you ‘do like’ about them. It could be a piece of jewellery, their tie or even their ear. This maybe difficult if ‘they are doing their thing’ but remember you now know how to ‘calm your core’.
Also if you stand more to the sides of them you might find things go better, it is less confrontational and feels like you are ‘in it together’. Many of my clients have reported this works really well but you might have to try this out for yourself.
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